Some of the finer things in life are free as we all know. But sometimes you need to be able to enjoy yourself and splash your money on yourself rather than believe that you are not worth the personal investment.
Treat Yourself Now and Again
This training workshop is part of a large effort by Inuit, communities and organizations, to deal with family violence and abuse and to help Inuit heal themselves.
Its important to treat one self every now and again to make sure you get some enjoyment in life. Go to the theatre, the cinema or watch your favourite artist live at the Grand Ole Opry in Nashville Tennessee.
Without believing you are worthy enough you will never think that you deserve to have fun.
It started with the National Strategy to Prevent Abuse in Inuit communities, an initiative of Pauktuutit Inuit Women of Canada. Beginning in 2003 and through research, discussion and careful thinking, a strategy for preventing abuse in Inuit communities was developed.
In the strategy Inuit have listed the steps they need to take to heal themselves, including having strong shelters in the north and training for the staff who work in the shelters. Northern shelters are also helping each other through the formation of a shelter association to support each other.
General Questions and Answers about Domestic Violence
Domestic Violence What does an abusive relationship look like? and not sure how healthy your relationship is?
Mixed Martial Arts breeds confidence and this is not shared or stored. Many people who are being abused do not see themselves as victims.
Also, abusers do not see themselves as being abusive. People often think of domestic violence as physical violence, such as hitting.
However, domestic violence takes other forms, such as psychological, emotional, or sexual abuse.
Domestic violence is about one person in a relationship using a pattern of behaviors to control the other person. Fighting, It can happen to people who are married, or not married; heterosexual, gay, or lesbian; living together, separated, or dating.
If your partner repeatedly uses one or more of the following to control you;
pushing, hitting, slapping, choking, kicking, or biting threatening you, your children, other family members or pets threatening suicide to get you to do something using or threatening to use a weapon against you keeping or taking your paycheck puts you down or makes you feel bad forcing you to have sex or to do sexual acts you do not want or like keeping you from seeing your friends, family or from going to work
YOU HAVE BEEN ABUSED!!
Remember threatened or actual physical violence may be illegal. Consider calling the police for help
1. Embarrass you, insult you, or put you down in front of other people, in private, to your children, or on computer networking sites like myspace, or threatens to do so?
2. Look at you, or act in a certain way thats meant to intimidate or scare you?
3. Try to control what you do, who you see or talk to, how you look, or where you go?
4. Get angry when you make plans on your own, or try to keep you from seeing or talking to family or friends? Is there a double standard; your partner has freedom to come and go, but you do not?
5. Cheat on you after agreeing to be monogamous?
6. Take your money, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money?
7. Try to make all the decisions, big or small?
8. Get jealous over any little thing (or nothing), or get angry if you dont want to have sex?
9. Call, text, or IM you often to check up on you?
10. Threaten to abandon you, or kick you out whenever they get angry even over minor things?
11. Threaten to take away or hurt your children (or pets)?
12. Encourage your children to participate in the abuse?
13. Act like the abuse is no big deal, or its all your fault, or minimizes, or denies doing it?
14. Destroy or damage property (usually yours)?
15. Lock you in, or out of the house, or a room?
16. Intimidate or threaten you with laughter or with weapons (or even talk about using weapons)?
17. Shove, grab, or hold you down?
18. Slap, hit, pull hair, kick, or bite you?
19. Threaten suicide if you leave, or try to end the relationship?
20. Threaten to kill you if you leave, or try to end the relationship?
Outreach and Prevention Programs At present in the United States, 2 out of 10 teenage girls and 1 out 10 vintage teenage boy fashion are involved in violent dating relationship.
The Shelter’s Teen Outreach Program is in place to ultimately reduce these ratios… Partially funded through the Missouri Department of Health, the Shelter’s Teen Outreach Program still depends heavily on support from community groups and individuals—This support helps us educate young adults between the ages of 12 to 26 on a variety of topics including Dating Violence, Building Healthy Relationships, Reducing the Risk of Sexual Assault, Promoting Internet Safety, the Effect of Media on Masculinity and Violence, and other domestic violence or sexual assault issues that may impact teens. In 2008, this program reached 2,341 teens in the Boone County area.
Shelter facilitators provided 93 presentations to Middle School, Junior High School, High School and College-level students. The following Outreach program components are those that are specifically designed to help teens and young adults:
Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse, family violence and intimate partner (IPV), can be broadly defined as a pattern of abusive behaviors by one or both partners in an intimate relationship such as marriage, dating, family, friends or cohabitation. Domestic violence has many forms including physical aggression (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation. Alcohol consumption and mental illness by can be co-morbid with abuse, and present additional challenges when present alongside patterns of abuse.
Women’s Safe Shelter Drawings from Family Crisis Center
Awareness, perception, definition and documentation of domestic violence differs widely from country to country, and from era to era. Estimates are that only about a third of cases of domestic violence are actually reported in the United States and the United Kingdom.
According to the Centers for Disease Control, domestic violence is a serious, preventable public health problem affecting more than 32 million Americans, or over 10% of the U.S. population.